Love Challenge

February 1, 2015

Grab a cup of coffee, this might hit a soft spot in your heart. 

As a woman, love comes naturally to us. We want to be loved, we want to love others (most of the time). We feed off of love and acceptance, generally speaking.

We are wired differently than a man, and thankfully so. God has designed us in such a unique way. when Mark and I were going through marriage counseling as an engaged couple, we were recommended to read the book “love and respect.” at first, I thoroughly hated the book and thought it was way too harsh on the ability and necessity of a woman to respect a man, but after giving the book an honest chance, I was able to see where biblically (Ephesians 5:33) the man is called to LOVE his wife and a woman is called to RESPECT her husband. This marriage command reflects the obedience of Jesus Christ to love and serve the church (man) and for obedience and submission out of respect for God (woman). Ephesians 5:22-33 is a beautiful passage and shouldn’t be viewed as a suffocating agreement.

When a man loves his wife as he is commanded and when a wife respects her husband as she is commanded, marriage can be a beautiful cycle of smiles. I don’t want to simplify marriage, because in my short-almost-year of marriage, it’s a process of compromise. However, it is quite evident that when a woman doesn’t feel loved by her husband, it is hard for a woman to respect her husband. Likewise, when a man feels disrespected by his wife, he finds it near impossible to display love to her. It’s a vicious cycle.

Read Love and Respect by Dr. Emerson Eggerichs. Get it HERE

So why did I say all that?

Well, February is the month of love, or at least that’s what most people think of when this season approaches.


i want to challenge you this month, women. this may not come naturally to you – it doesn’t to me anyway – but i want to challenge you to write down one thing you respect about your husband each day in the month of february. tuck this scripted gem into his lunch box, send it through an email, shoot off a text in the middle of the day, or give him a call. sounds sweet right? but this is more than being sweet. this actively lets your significant other know you respect him, and the need to be respected is an innate characteristic given to him by God. it’s not a chauvinistic, macho, self-glorification, ego-boosting thing. when a man feels respected, you will feel loved.

don’t believe me? take this challenge.

here are some great things you might love (respect) about your husband, fiancé, significant other:

  • i respect the way you work so hard to financially provide for our family.
  • i really appreciate the way you helped me out in the kitchen for dinner.
  • i respect the way you build me up in front of others.
  • i respect the way you take care of your body and desire to be healthy.
  • i am so proud of you for making the deadline/turning in that assignment on time.
  • i am so proud to be your wife/future wife/girlfriend.
  • i love the way you make me laugh.
  • i am so proud of you for working late, i know how tired you must be, but i don’t want you to think that i don’t appreciate everything you do for this family.
  • i really respect the way you compromise with me. i know it would be easier to just always go with your way.
  • i really respect the way you manage your money and are always trying to be conscious of our future together. that means a lot to me.
  • the way you dress just commands respect. i love it.
  • i respect you so much for taking the time to listen to me.

there are so many more ways you can let your significant other know that you respect him, but telling him through verbal or written word will get you further. i know you may feel absolutely dumb and may be fake in writing or sending or saying these things at first, but there is something that you respect about your man and he needs to know it. i hope that through this challenge, you see your relationship get taken to a new level. this is all about getting the focus off of ourselves, and putting it on someone who we love and ultimately respect.

let me know below how you respect your significant other. it’d be great to share ideas with each other.

keep sipping on that coffee, ponder what has been said, and take the challenge,


Kitty March 2, 2015 at 6:16 pm

Love the practical speaking points. Printing these out!!

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