Blooming in the Engagement {Miss August}

August 19, 2013

I know we have a couple of engaged gals here in our Mississippi Women Bloggers community and I thought today would be a good day to share some of my own engaged gal experiences.  Being engaged is a weird thing.  You know that wedding date is in your near future and you’ll soon take on the title of wife, but for now, you’re just the fiancé.  You’re this close to that day that you’ve dreamed about, but you’re stuck in the middle of dating and beginning the journey you’ve longed to begin.  It can be easy to allow discontentedness to creep into your life as you look around at the married friends in your life.  They’re enjoying their husbands and normal lives while you’re running around like a chicken with your head cut off trying to get the cake ordered, the dress altered, and the DIY projects completed.  And at the end of the day… you still don’t go home to your man.  I’ve been there and it can certainly be frustrating!  But, now that I’m on the other side of the fence, I think so much about how incredible that time can be if you choose to bloom in that season.

As I think back on my days as an engaged girl, I’m so glad that I spent some time really preparing my heart for the beginning of our marriage, but I know I could have used even more of that time to do so.  I allowed many moments to slip by because I was so focused on seeing the numbers fall off my countdown.  Many times I rushed through the once in a lifetime experiences because I was so ready to get to the end goal.  My husband.  Lord willing, that man will be your husband for a long, long time but, your engagement WILL end.  The big day will come and your season as an engaged girl will end and you’ll start the newlywed season in the blink of an eye.

Here are a few tips from someone just on the other side of that season you’re in:
1.  Spend some time in the Word preparing your heart.  I can’t tell you how much it meant to me to spend the last few weeks of my engagement reading through some scripture passages about marriage.  It really did focus my heart in on the reason we were getting married and I know that I was so calm and focused that day because the Lord had prepared me.  You can visit this post if you’re interested in what I studied.
2.  Whenever you get overwhelmed, stop what you’re doing.  There were so many moments that I was stressed simply because I didn’t take a few minutes to decompress and focus on reality.  I know it seems like the end of the world when you can’t get this done or that isn’t happening like you thought it would.  But, one day you’ll look back and it will all be over.  It WILL all get accomplished and you’ll have your husband at the end of the day.  Focus on that!
3.  Remind yourself that this season is a blessing!  It is incredible to see how many people support you and your man as you journey though an engagement.  You’ll hear so many encouraging words and have many prayers prayed over you.  You will have showers thrown by people who love you and your wedding day will be full of SO much love.  This season of preparation is a blessing and an opportunity to see how much the people in your life love you.  Take a minute and soak it in!
It is a season, my engaged friends.  A season that doesn’t last long, but that can be one of the sweetest of your life if you actively choose to enjoy it and to bloom right in the middle of it.  Don’t miss out, you sweet brides!

 

Brie Gowen August 19, 2013 at 10:38 am

Beautiful. Wonderful read.

Nickolee August 20, 2013 at 12:46 am

so true – great words!

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